My Friend Greg

greg-knee.jpgAm feeling sad today….A good friend was killed in a car accident last Friday 22/02/08. Greg was rushing to a job interview when he ran off the road and hit a tree. Greg had only just celebrated his 20th birthday in Dec.There was a lot of crying and grief on Friday when I got the news. I felt physically sick. The pain for what his family must be feeling was so intense I could not verbalise my emotions.Albert, Lily and I went to Greg’s home on Friday night and it was probably the best thing we could have done.I have not known a lot of death in my life and so often feel unable to verbalise my sympathy to those who have lost someone close to them. I did not want to go in to the house as I thought I would throw up. I kept saying to Albert ‘What do I say?”Albert said “You don’t have to say anything”. This was really hard for me to grasp because my personality is all about fixing things. There was nothing that I could say that would fix this. To see so many people there that loved and knew Greg made the grief easier to bear.To hug his family and be there for them was important too. His family are amazing. And to see the response to a death of a Christian is so different to the death of unbeliever.Even through their deep sadness his family have hope. They know Greg is in heaven. Greg is now better off than all of us. The sadness that we were all experiencing was for ourselves. How we will miss him and have to change our lives to function without him. Even though we were sad there was laughter and joy remembering funny things about Greg.lua-greg.jpg

Greg was a brilliant musician and organiser. We laughed to think that Greg was now in heaven lining up the angels and telling them what he wanted them to sing…I smiled to think that Greg is now listening to music that our human understanding can’t even imagine…. 


Greg only last Sunday you promised to help me organise the Christmas Panto at Church. I will now have to get this done without your great talent. This makes me so sad. But wow I am happy for you.How awesome Greg. You can now find out who shot JFK! Although I am sure that is not on the top of your priority list for ‘Questions to ask when you get to heaven’You can ask Corrie Ten Boom how she survived the Nazi Concentration camp. You can give Gladys Aylward a hug. Talk to Johannes Sebastian Bach and ask about his music.But best of all you can step forward and lay your head on the shoulder of Jesus while giving Him that famous Gregles hug. He will wipe the tears from your eyes.Your home brother!    


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Erin
    Feb 27, 2008 @ 23:55:18

    Rachel I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. He sounds like a wonderful person. Last week I also went to a funeral for a very young man who was killed in a car wreck. Even though I wasn’t close to him, as you were to Greg, the overwhelming sadness was more than I could bear. To have a life lost so tragically and so young is beyond comprehension. My thoughts and prayers will be both you and his family and you all struggle to get through such a difficult time. All the best.


  2. Kim
    Mar 06, 2008 @ 18:51:59

    Hi Rachel, Albert and Lily,
    Just checked in to your site to see what the gorgeous Miss Lily has been up to and was saddened to read of your friend Gregs death.
    Big cyberhugs to you all at this sad time,


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