Happy News

I posted about the loss of my friends baby earlier in the year.

Well now I can happily announce that Meg and Dj are 8 weeks pregnant with baby number 2.

The doctor says that the baby is healthy as is Meg and they are all on track for a healthy delivery around April 3rd.

Lily is so excited about the baby growing in Meg’s tummy, as am I.

Can’t wait to meet Baby K!!

 

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Xing Xing’s Story

The other night I was lying with Lily in her bed trying to settle her for the night.

She asked me if I would read her a story. I said “Mummy doesn’t want to get up to get a story can I tell you a story instead?”

To which I got an emphatic “YES!”

 

So I began…

 

Once upon a time a little girl was born in China and her name was Wan Chun Xing and when she was only 2 days old she went to live in the Wanzhou Social Welfare Institute. She lived there with her friends Wan Chun Li, Wan Chun Di and Wan Chun Jia.

Wan Chun Xing lived at the Social Welfare Institute until she was 16 months old. When she was at the Social Welfare Institute her nannies called her Xing Xing.

Then one day her Mummy and Daddy found out that they were Xing Xing’s new Mummy and Daddy and at last were coming to China to get her and take her home.

 

(Lily is listening intently through all this. I then asked her who Xing Xing was and she proudly banged on her chest that she was Xing Xing.)

 

So then Mummy and Daddy flew all the way to Chongqing in China and waited patiently in their hotel room waiting for the nannies to come with Xing Xing.

Aunty Celeste ran down to the foyer to see if the babies were coming. She quickly came up in the lift and yelled “The babies are coming the babies are coming!”

 

(Lily and I always make a big deal about yelling out this part of the story)

 

Then Daddy who couldn’t stand it anymore looked out the door and saw Xing Xing coming out of the lift. She was wearing squeaky shoes and was coming down the hall way squeak squeak squeak holding onto her nannies hand.

Daddy yelled out to Mummy I think I see Xing Xing and she is wearing squeaky shoes! Can you hear her?

Then Xing Xing was in the doorway looking a bit shocked at what was happening. Mummy quickly scooped Xing Xing up and said Guai Guai Bu Ku Xing Xing (Good Girl, Don’t Cry Xing Xing) Then Mummy started singing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star because Xing means star and Xing Xing was Mummy and Daddy’s little Star .

Then Mummy and Daddy said that they wanted to give Xing Xing a name that they brought all the way from Australia with great love. And from now on Xing Xing would be Lily Chun Xing Garlando much loved daughter of Albert and Rachel Garlando.

 

(At this point in the story Lily looked up at me and said “Xing Xing was sad in China”

Shocked I said “why was Xing Xing sad in China?” she said

“Because Xing Xing had no daddy in China”

Well didn’t that tear at my insides. I gave her a cuddle and said “Is Xing Xing sad now?” she said

“No Xing Xing happy now Mummy!!”

Wow how much do I love my daughter and how deep are the thoughts of a 2 year old…

Go away Ching Chong Girl…

I have been thinking about racism a lot recently and have been weighing up in my mind what it’s all about.

Admittedly being white and growing up for most of my life in Australia I haven’t had to deal with racism directed at me.

But the other day Lily and I were in our local park. I was sitting talking to my friend Meg while Lily played on the slide.

There were 2 little girls of about 8 or 9 years of age playing on the swings. Lily saw them and ran over asking if she could go on the swing. I told her to just stand and wait till the older girls were finished.

The next thing I know Meg is saying to me “Did you hear what those girls just said to Lily?”

I said “No, what happened?”

 

Then Meg proceeds to tell me that the girls saw Lily coming and said “Go away Ching Chong Girl! Ahh sooo ching chong chheee DO YOU UNDERSTAND ENGLISH CHING CHONG GIRL?”

 

Well I was completely mortified. I just could not believe that the racial cuts I knew would come one day were already here!! For goodness sake Lily is only 2 years old.

We live in a suburb full of many nationalities especially Chinese. The local primary school (that more than likely these 2 girls attend) prides itself on it’s association with a sister school in China and even boasts a Chinese language program through most of it’s classes.

 

Where do 9 year olds get such horrible attitudes from? And worse still was these girls were not what I would call white. They appeared hispanic and yet they were the ones doling out the racism.

 

I sat there for a full 5 minutes looking around the park and wondering how to respond. I looked at all the adults in the park wondering if I should question them to find the parents of these 2 girls and take it up with the parents.

I wondered whether I should approach the girls directly.

Then I looked at Lily. She wasn’t fussed. She did not understand what had just transpired. So I thought the best thing to do would be to let it go.

 

Even though I think it was appalling behaviour and such behaviour should be addressed I did not think that it was in Lily’s best interest to cause a scene.

And now after witnessing this incident I am sadly sure there will be many more opportunities to defend my daughter in the future.

At his blog Eugene Cho comments on this type of behaviour.

It’s a really hard call. How to react. I don’t want Lily growing up thinking her looks or her ethnic roots need defending. She’s Chinese and she should be proud of her Chinese heritage. But on the other hand I don’t want her to feel negative or angry about growing up Asian in Australia because of a bunch of ignorant and stupid racial slurs.

And people need to know that what they may percieve as a bit of a joke about someones ethnicity can be cruel and hurtful.

 

But foremost I am Lily’s mother and if I am honest the first reaction I thought to have was to go over and slap those 2 girls silly and make them apologise to Lily.  I may not be Lily’s biological mother but if you hurt my girl you deal with me!!

 

Albert has been mentioning that we should take Lily along to our Karate class with us… 🙂

 

This comic is by US based artist Wayne Chan

Faith of a Squirrel Glider

Your father knows what you need before you ask him. So do not worry, saying ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Today’s trouble is enough for today. (Matthew 6:8b, 31-34)

 

Trust in the Lord and do good; so you will live in the land, and enjoy security. Take delight in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. Be still before the Lord, and wait patiently for him. (Psalm 37:3-7a)

 

I have always known that the right thing for our family was for me to stay at home with Lily and be the Mum she needs me to be. But as I am sure you are all aware we don’t always do what is right. We manage to reason with ourselves and justify the choices we make.

I had convinced myself that I had to be back in the workforce because the adoption was so costly and we needed to have my extra income. Meanwhile the reason for the adoption was in childcare every week costing us close to $300 a week.

Lily wasn’t happy, I wasn’t happy…but I had convinced myself that it was the right thing to do. Stupid!!

 

Then a few weeks ago Albert and I were talking about the lesson Lily had in Sunday school on Faith and the Squirrel Glider.

Albert asked me “How would you show Lily what faith was?”

I laughed and said that’s the Sunday School teachers job.

He said ‘Seriously how in a real application of it would you show Lily what Faith was?”

He stumped and I said “No idea”.

That’s when he sent me for a six! He should have at least asked me to sit down before he dropped his bombshell.

 

Albert sat there and said that a real life application of Faith that we could show Lily would be for me to resign from my job and for us to Trust that the Lord would provide all our needs.

 

So after I recovered from the shock I ruminated on the idea for awhile and agreed that yes this was the right thing to do.

 

Last Tuesday the 29th July I gave my boss one months notice so my last day in the workforce is Friday the 29th August. Yay!

I am leaving one job that I am over to take on the job I have always wanted…Stay At Home Mum.

 

I know that things will be tight financially and that budgeting will be key but Albert and I both believe it is the right thing to do and will support each other. The sacrifices that will be made will be worth seeing my darling girls’ face every morning when she wakes up. Playing with her down the park, teaching her to make things in the kitchen and taking her to playgroup.

 

My mum was in all my childhood memories and I want Lily to have those same memories of me being around and me being interested in all she does.

 

 

SAHM

SAHM